The Volume Knob For Drowning Out Negative Emotions

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Summary:

• The words you choose determine the emotions you feel. 
• Beliefs are formed by words and beliefs are changed by words. 
• By changing the words you habitually use, you instantly change how you feel
• This training will teach you how to decrease the intensity of any negative emotion (if necessary) and increase the intensity of any empowering emotion!
• This is the volume knob for drowning out your negative emotions! 
• Watch the video for the full training! 
• This training is a must watch for anyone who wants to feel more positive more often! 

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Welcome to The Path To Mindset Mastery! My name is Brad Bizjack. I’m a mindset strategist and coach, inspirational speaker, and creator of Appreciation Academy and I help online business owners break through all the negative self-talk holding you back from your dreams so you can finally see the success you deserve!

And I’m curious. If you could use one word to share how you view your business, what would it be? What’s that word for you? When I ask this question, want to know what some of the most common answers I get are?

Hard. Busy. Overwhelming.

And that’s I used to view my business. My words were stuck and hard. Every time I thought about it, I felt guilty if I wasn’t working on it and if I was working on it, I felt like it was so hard like it was this big boulder I was pushing up a hill.

What I didn’t realize at the time is that our beliefs are formed by words. And I want to give credit to Tony Robbin’s book, “Awaken The Giant Within” for what I’m about to teach you. I learned this from him. It took my business from being hard to being fun. From being stuck to being a force for good. And it will do the same for you.

Your words carry so much power. Your beliefs are formed by words, and can they can be changed by words. The happiness in your marriage is based on words.

If you pick your words intelligently, it makes your positive life experiences better. But if you don’t have any plan for selecting your words, you have an automatic recipe to screw up your life and your business.

So please put this in your notes. The words you habitually choose massive affect your life experience. In fact, it’s so important to understand that the words you select become your experience.

If you change your habitual vocabulary, you instantly change how you feel. Because an effective selection of words makes your emotions better.

So go forward, think of a word as an emotional short cut. It creates a biochemical effect in your brain. So you need to choose your words consciously. Even just changing 1 word can change everything.

For example, do you ever say, “I hate that?” Well, what feelings are associated with hate? Is it a heavy emotion? Or a light emotion? Does it evoke positivity and solution? Or negativity and friction? You already know. And it’s a habit, right? Meaning when you’re in conversation with someone, doesn’t it just kinda come out automatic?

What if instead of saying, “I hate that,” you said, “I’d prefer something else.” Instead of saying, “that movie sucks,” you say, “it wasn’t my favorite movie.”

Most people have 10-15 words they regularly use in their life.

So take a look at the negative people you know. What words do they use regularly? Hate? Anxious? Depressed? Furious? Pissed?

And then take a look at positive people. What words do they use regularly? Very different, right?

Because words equal emotion.

A great example that I always give in my own life is something that I get ridiculed for a lot. How do you describe marriage?

Janiece and I were with our friends Meg and Nick at a wedding last year. And we heard a speech that said something along the lines of “Marriage is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do.” And we were talking about it, and we all very strongly disagreed. Marriage is easy. Marriage is fun. Marriage is beautiful.

So when I ask people how do you describe marriage, most people respond to this with the words, “Hard work.” Well, what feelings are associated with hard work? Stress? Exhaustion? FOMO? Anxiety? And we feel those emotions! And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high!

I don’t believe marriage is hard work. I believe marriage is easy and beautiful. And so I associate really positive feelings. So when there’s a challenge in my marriage, I think it’ll be easy to fix. I believe that we can work it all out.

And guess what? Janiece and I haven’t had a fight in over 8 years. We disagree all the time. But because marriage is easy, we solve that challenge in seconds instead of it turning into something hurtful.

So take a look at your vocabulary to see how you describe situations or people in life. Would it benefit you to adopt someone else’s more empowering vocabulary? Yeah, it would! If your habitual words disempower you, change your words!

Words are a tool for representing things to ourselves. So if there’s no word, there’s no way to think about the experience.

For me, I personally don’t even use “depressed” in my life. It’s not even a thing. It’s not part of my vocabulary anymore. Because I faced times where I was on the couch, wanting my life to change, and I couldn’t get myself to do it, and I told myself that I was depressed. So guess what I felt? Depression. But when I started saying that instead, I was just a little unmotivated? Do you think I felt lighter? You bet. So now, depressed isn’t even part of my vocabulary so I literally can’t feel it.

Changing your words intensifies or diminishes any emotional state. That means we have the power to make our feelings better or worse at any moment.

One thing I always teach my clients is to life up what they do. So for example, when you’re on the phone at work, and someone asks how you’re doing, how do you respond?

Let me guess. “I’m okay,” or “I’m busy.”

Newsflash: You’re asking people not to like you as much. Because what emotions are associated with those words? Shitty ones! So what I started doing when someone asked me how I was doing is I started saying “I’m fantastic!” or “I’m amazing!”

And it changed the game. The look on people’s faces was hilarious. But think about what it did for me. It’s not about bullshitting when you’re not feeling great. And there’s nothing wrong with negative emotions sometimes. Sometimes it’s not in your best interest to lower the intensity of negative emotions. They’re great tools and calls to actions for your life. But changing these words was about changing how I felt. I was commanding myself to feel amazing or fantastic, and guess what? I did!

And now I am actually this annoyingly happy on a regular basis. And some people look at me like I’m crazy. But I know this works because I lived on the other side for a while. And if someone judges you for this, chances are they have shitty words.

In fact, you won’t be negatively perceived for being positive from anyone who has a superior vocabulary.

So I took a look at my negative habits when it came to my words, and I wrote down the negative ones that I had habitually used in the past. And this, by the way, is not something I created. This is a lesson I learned from Tony’s book that I mentioned earlier.

But my 5 words that I habitually used to describe negative feelings were tired, overwhelmed, frustrated, lazy, and stressed. I used to use those all the time.

And so I took them, and I lightened them with humor. Because that does two things. First, it interrupts a negative emotional pattern playing in your mind, almost like scratching a record. And second is that it made the emotion lighter, so I could breakthrough faster.

“Tired” is now “a little droopy.”

“Overwhelmed” is now “a smidge imbalanced.”

“Frustrated” is now “fascinated.”

“Lazy” is now “storing energy.”

“Stressed” is now “a little pooheaded.”

It works! Just right there, the emotions felt lighter, didn’t they!?

And then I took my positive emotions, and I made them even better! You can do this too.

Selecting words that empower you is so crucial! Think about how you can apply this to your own life. If someone tells you that they’re so annoyed, you can use this skill to lower the intensity of the emotion for them. If someone tells you that they’re depressed, you can ask them, “Are you depressed? Or are you hurt?” “Are you depressed? Or are you a little sad because things haven’t been going your way.” You can change someone’s life with this.

If you’re trying to lose weight, are you “starving?” Or are you “A smidge hungry?”

So please take away from this that you can’t feel a word that you don’t have in your vocabulary. So what are some words that you’re committed to no longer using to describe how you feel? Make them more empowering and try it for a week. On top of that, when someone asks you how you’re doing, from now on, life up what you say. Say that you’re terrific. Say that you’re fantastic. You’ll feel it.

So I hope you took a lot away from this. Your words carry power. That change your emotional state, and your emotional state determines the actions you take and the creativity you instill in your business.

Please screenshot this and share it on your Instagram stories. Share it with your team. Send this link their way. This can change their world!

Thank you so much for tuning into The Path To Mindset Mastery! My name is Brad Bizjack. Go out there today and every day and live your life with a genuine smile on your face. Because you can. It’s easy! I’ll see you next week!